The Happy Medium between relinquishing your power and taking your power back in a safe consensual space maybe therapeutic for sexual trauma survivors.
BDSM bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism
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Bondage dominance submission masochism
Masochism-the enjoyment of pain
Sadist and masochist both describe persons with specific psychological conditions. A sadist is someone who derives pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, from inflicting pain or degradation on someone else. R. Kelly was or is an example of a Sadist who practices masochism. A masochist is someone who derives pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, from experiencing pain or humiliation.
“in some cases it doesn’t have to involve sex at all – the mental connotations of some acts are more of a turn-on than the prelude of a particular act leading to sex,” Annabelle explains.
What is your kink or fetish? What arouses you?
What practices or roleplaying, physical or psychological kinky activity turns you on?
For example, I am not into being put in bondage, but releasing myself from a self rope tie makes me feel all tingly.
What I love about BDSM practice is the consent culture. In my experiences with sex before introduction to BDSM, consent was not talked about enough. BDSM encourages “If your partner asks you to stop, “you should always greet a ‘no’ or stop’ with gratitude and acceptance,” says bondage and fetish expert, Marika Leila Roux, CEO of Shibari Study.
Marika also says, “Showing positive reinforcement and acceptance when your partner finds the courage to express their limits and boundaries will encourage them to always communicate freely with you. This is important to protect them from feeling violated but also to limit the risk of you unintentionally violating them. Their ability to say ‘no’ is a beautiful gift, not a limitation!”
I prefer the more sensual side of BDSM but if pain excites you, I am happy to inflict it. 😉
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